Men compete in this way because they believe that the tokens of masculinity are in short supply.
I don’t feel this way now, but I remember from about 14 – 19, maybe into some 20s I felt this way thought I never thought about it in quite these terms.
when boys compete to be the first to “score”
That was the culture. Never thought about this as ‘women’s bodies as trophies’ but the shoe fits.
At any time she may choose to sit on the shelf of another man. This is a devastating occurrence for a trophy-hunting man
accurate. A whole mindset shift is needed.
men develop a preoccupation with sexuality, which powerfully handicaps their capacity for emotionally intimate relationships with men and for nonsexual relationships with women.
Section: Why aren’t there more complaints?
Since it prevents real intimacy, mature disclosure, and honest interpersonal connection, it creates barriers to understanding and becomes a significant obstacle to healthy relationships.
I maintain that dating in high school kept me away from a lot of porn. This is counterintuitive to many people I think. Going beyond the centerfold to meet real people can help you turn back the tide of the images you seen the media. Real women, with real humanity can make you look at porn a lot differently. I started to feel, as a teenage boy, that every click was putting that person in front of the camera and a host of other observers (and profiteers) behind it. My generation would benefit from meeting each other.
It is neither … the product of moral weakness resulting from Adam succumbing to Eve’s temptation with the forbidden fruit.
I’ve heard a lot of things, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard Eve or Eve’s body being cast as the forbidden fruit of knowledge of good and evil. But likely someone out there was saying this.
if we guys were such lovers of natural beauty, why did we spend hours ogling women and virtually no time with other objects of “natural beauty” such as vibrant sunsets, colorful birds, or delicate flowers.
Sound point. Interesting list.
Few of us left a visual encounter feeling that we had been uplifted or had reached for a transcendent sense of peace. Rather, … sometimes “so horny we might explode”.
I appreciate this author’s frankness and clarity. The author is unplugged from the Matrix.
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